NaNoWriMo RE: None of my friends support my nanoing… ;__; & I just overheard my family complaining about me..

A question and my answer to it:

[quote=writelikeamadthing] I just overheard my family complaining about me…

Ouch.

Excuse me for having a goal and a deadline.

Excuse me for wanting to do something fun and worthwhile now that I’m currently – and hopefully temporarily – unemployed.

Excuse me for only having ONE chance to pause on the Write Or Die programme, and for not being able to concentrate on what I’m doing when you’re blathering on in my right ear.

Excuse me for thinking that writing a novel might be more worthwhile than a stupid computer game.

Excuse me for not being able to chat and focus on what I’m writing at the same time.

You know what? F*** you. Seriously. F*** you.

Apologies for anyone who just took the time to read this pointless rant, but, well. Ouch.

Today, my family sucks.

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At least your mom is not emailing all your aunts and uncles and telling them that you are wasting your life on pipe-dreams (like my mom is doing) or emailing your bishop and your friends, and your boy friend and telling them lots of nasty lies about your book (my mom is doing that too.)

I found out my mom was doing this when I started getting nasty comments on my FaceBook wall from my relatives and church members, and I couldn’t understand what the hell they were talking about. I told my boyfriend about it and he said that my mom had been emailing him several times a day talking bad about me and my writing career goals. He than showed me the emails she had sent him. I was stunned! Than he told me that she had phoned both his sister and his father and was telling them what a terrible person I was because I wrote *wicked nasty books* and told them that they should keep my boyfriend away from me before I destroyed his life!

I started asking the folks who getting mad at me, why they were mad at me, and each one of them would tell me basically the same thing my boyfriend had told me. My mom wrote/emailed/called them and had lots of things to say about what a no-good person I was because of the things I write!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What gets me, is I’m 34 years. My mom is in her 50’s. She’s almost 60 years old, and she’s acting like a spoiled vindictive brat! I don’t know what is wrong with her or why she is doing this. It really upsets me though, to find out she is acting like this. I mean, she’s my mom! Why would she act like this? What does she gain out of it? What’s the point? I don’t get it at all.

But you know what? It makes me want to write even more. It makes me want to try to get this thing published even more. It makes me want to say: “See, I told you this wasn’t a waste of time. I told you writing a book was not me being lazy. I told you writing was a career not an excuse to be a bum. See? I published that book! I’m getting paid for writing it.”

So, yeah, hang in there. Some times some people are going to be major pain in the ass jerks, and unfortunately, sometimes those jerks are going to be close friends or even family members. It hurts, yes, but think of it this way: it’s their loss! When you finally get your book published, they’ll be known as the evil ones who tried to stand in your way and hinder your hard work.

[quote=Jen_Barber]MY mother called me yesterday and said I should be going out to meet men instead of staying in and writing. I’m 24 and she has grandbabies on the mind. Not kidding. She wants me married and picking out a house TODAY. Forget writing. I should be changing diapers. WHAT????


Obviously, my main female character is single. And two hundred years old. TAKE THAT MOTHER.
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I have an uncle like that – AN UNCLE! Not even one of my parents but a distant uncle who I hardly know. He called me “the old maid” and goes around telling my friends and family that I am going to hell because I didn’t get married before I was 16 years old. SIXTEEN YEARS OLD FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!!!!!!!!!!!! He says I should have had at least 2 babies by the time I was 18, and than he brags about how his 14 kids all got married before they were 16 ad how today he’s got 50+ grand kids. OMG! This guy is a freaking nut case! (and yes, he is LDS/Mormon, that’s why he’s promoting the whole teen marriage, teen pregnancy, and one baby every 10 months thing). He’s sick. That’s all there is too it. This guy is just plain sick.

Every time he calls my an Old Maid, I rush back to whatever book I’m writing and have my villain rip some guys head off. I usually pretend it’s my uncle. That’s the good thing about being a writer – you can kill off every one who pisses you off in your books! X-P

None of my friends support my nanoing… ;__;
[quote=biachan]Whenever I tell my friends about nanowrimo, I get different results, but no one is happy fro me, or even shows me a bit of support. When I say I passed 12 thousand words, I was expecting someone to be proud of me, or be enthusiastic. Instead, I was met with a general aloofness, or even, negativity, as one friend said it was stupid to try nano because my book is going to suck. Most of them are even annoyed by it because I can’t hang out with my friends every day anymore.Thankfully, at least I have my mom supporting me. Am I the only one experiencing this, and what can I do to keep motivated?

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I’m having the same problem. That’s why I go to the local Write In meetings. Have you gone to any of your local meetings yet? Meeting other WriMoers is a big help, because you get to talk with folks who actually know what you are doing and why you are doing it, because they are doing it too. Your region says, Miami, FL, so I just searched and the list of your local Write-In meetings is here: http://www.nanowrimo.org/eng/node/281 and your region has 2 MLs (Write In Leaders) http://www.nanowrimo.org/eng/user/109896 and http://www.nanowrimo.org/eng/user/505152 I would NaNoMail them to find out the times-dates-places of the meetings being held in your area, and than go to them and chat with your local NaNoers.

I know where you are coming from with the negativity. I get it from my mom. She says the whole thing is a stupid waste of time and that my writing will never amount to anything. She says I should focus my energy on getting a *real job* rather than wasting my time on a writing career. Some months I’m lucky if I bring in $200 and she really enjoys rubbing that fact in my face. I try to tell her, that the more I write the better my writing gets, but she just blows it off.

My boyfriend calls me every day to ask: “So what’s your word count”. I tell him my new count, and goes: “That’s great, I’m really happy for you.” and than changes the subject. I try to tell him about my book and he’s like “Yeah, whatever, good for you.” He’s not being mean, but you can tell he doesn’t understand how important my writing career is not me, and he’s pretty bored with it. At least he’s trying to be supportive, even if his heart isn’t really in it. But, that’s the best I get from any one.

Last year’s NaNo was the worst though. Last yea I was a NaNoRebel and wrote my autobiography. Than in December I posted all 238k words of in as a blog post. I spent most of 2009 editing it, and it was published in October 2009. All that was great, except for one thing: I’m being excommunicated because of it!!!!!!! I had posted the first draft of it online on my blog last December, and my bishop got a hold of it (because my mom copied the blog post and emailed it too him) and did a total flip out . The church leaders have been on my back about it all summer about it.

Here’s a copy of my blog post from October 19th:

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I was supposed to go to an excommunication hearing (it’s like a court with judges and witnesses and everything) this morning, but I was so stressed out about it that I ending up having a major panic attack and locked myself in my room instead. I’ve been going to the other meetings with the bishop and the other church leaders (some came in from out of state) and each one their accusation just get worse and worse and they never give me a chance to say anything in my own defense. Their latest accusation is to call me a witch consorting with demons! OMG! You could have floored me with THAT one! I mean, come on, what century are they living in here?

They’ve been pretty much holding back on the excommunication – in hopes that I would give in a not publish the book, but 3 days ago – I announced on my blog that I had received the proof copy and the sample cover art and had a preview of what the online catalog listing would look like – and I posted a copy of the info as well.

I guess my bishop watches my blog, because last night his counselor called me and told me I had to come in this morning and that they had brought in the State President (he’s the guy who would than send the papers to the Prophet in Utah – who would in turn send Salt Lake Leaders here to Maine for the final hearing.)

Well, I called my high priest, and he is stunned – he says he can’t figure out why or how my book got them so upset or why they are freaking out like this over it. He also said that with an excommunication proceeding, it doesn’t matter what I say, they’ll excommunicate whether I go or not, and that since my health is not really that good and stress makes it worse, he suggested that from now on I just ignore them and not go to any of the meetings, because there is no reason for me to put myself through the stress of sitting through all these hearings and listening to them belittle me. Well, I’ve been taking his advice for 22 years now and he’s never steered me wrong before (and he was a priest many years before the Bishop was even born, so he actually knows the church laws better.)

So, I took his advice and didn’t go to the hearing this morning, but than they called both my mom, and my dad and my 3 brothers and my step dad in, I guess because I didn’t show up, and from what they (my family) tell me, they got interrogated up one side and down the other. I guess the Stake President is really pissed that he came all the way down here and I didn’t show up. Well, after they called my family in, I was here alone at the house and I did a total meltdown wipe out panic attack – only thing I could think to do was to call my high priest and he came down from Wells and spent the day with me until I was calmed down enough to be left alone again. He’s really pissed off at the fact that they are getting me upset like this.

And I know I’m rambling – sorry – I didn’t mean to unload all my problems like that, but this whole thing just happened about 2 hours ago and I haven’t quite calmed down yet – my heart rate is just through the roof right now. I’m drinking tea and trying to relax and trying to think about plotting my NaNovel and worrying that they’ll get freaked out over the one I’m writing this year – it’s really getting in the way of my planning, actually. I gotta just keep telling myself to breeeeeeaaaath and relax and try to think happy thoughts – like plotting my NaNovel. I tried going to sleep, but I started having nightmares about the bishop and I can’t go for a walk because the snow is really coming down right now[/quote]

I’m prone to panic attacks, and I’ve been having them on a nearly weekly basis through out 2009, as a result of the stead stream of church leaders at my house, in my mail box, in my email, writing on my FaceBook wall – the constant threats, at one point some one taped a picture of a gun on my front door, 3 times I was attacked by a drive by paint balling, several times I’ve had rocks thrown threw the window. My book: http://www.lulu.com/content/paperback-book/for-fear-of-little-men/5954979 put them into a complete uproar, all of the 375+ members of my church building (It’s the LDS/Mormon church which is divided into regions) went into complete hysterics.

I don’t know who did it, but someone copied my original blog post and emailed copies of it to every member of my church and to members of some of the other regional church groups as well – the whole thing was one big mess with people sending me threats almost daily – all of the threats basically saying the same thing – “You better not publish that book or else . . . .” The or else varied depending on who was writing the threat, some said they would kill me, others said they would take me to court (and I’ve got about 6 or 7 people who have gone to court over this, so every few days I get a new summons from both the local and the state court houses) . The local church leaders contacted the high up church leaders in Salt Lake City, Utah, so I’m getting stuff from them too – threats to have me excommunicated if I go through with the publication of this book.

Well, anyways, this whole this has put me into a near agoraphobic state. I don’t dare go outside any more – I mean, when you open the front door to get your newspaper and you get hit by paint balls, it’s pretty bad. Paint balls hurt! I’m scared of these people, and I don’t know how I’m supposed to deal with this. And to make things worse – I STILL don’t know why me publishing my NaNoWriMo 2008 book, has got them acting like this?????? These people are so vindictive and I don’t even know why? I can’t figure out what it says in my book that got them going so crazed like this.

Here is the more recent repost of it. This is what I wrote for NaNoWriMo 2008 http://eknano.blogspot.com/2009/07/repost-for-fear-of-little-men-first.html it’s 238k words long, but if you want to give it a go, you can go ahead and read it and see if you can figure out why they have gone bonkers over trying to stop me from publishing it.

Well, the panic attacks have been getting worse with each new thing they do or say and on October 20th I had a stroke, which has had a disastrous effect on my life. I’m only 34 years and I had a stroke. One friend asked me – “Well, shouldn’t you blame NaNoWriMo? You had a stroke because you did NaNoWriMo last year, so why are you doing it again this year?”

My answer to that is – “No, I didn’t have a stroke because of NaNoWriMo, I had a stroke because of people’s reaction to what I wrote. I would have written it any ways, NaNoWriMo or no NaNoWriMo. These people are nothing but cry-baby vindictive A-holes. It’s not NaNoWriMo’s fault that these people did what they did. Yes, I’m doing NaNoWriMo again. I’ve been doing it for years and years and years and I’ll keep right on doing it for years – as long as they have the contest, and if they ever stop having the contest, well, heck, I’ll keep right on doing it any ways! You can be negative about my writing all you want – I am not going to let some mean, jealous, vindictive, winy people stop me from writing. I love writing. Writing is my life. If they don’t like it, well it’s their problem, not mine!”

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